I have a “friend” that I need to break up with and it is hard!
I met this friend about a year ago and I had high hopes. We had a lot in common and I felt comfortable opening up. I thought this person someone I could trust and confide in. I saw this friendship lasting for a long time.
And then red flags arose.
When I had to put Val down, I got no support. As a matter of fact I was told “I don’t understand what you are going through. It was just a dog”. I took that as a loud f%€?k you.
When I found out they were traveling to someplace I knew well, I got excited. I wanted to share with them some of my favorite places. I was told that “maybe I should go back”. A verbal middle finger.
Those are just a few examples. This person became very controlling and bossy. I would even dare say that this person became demeaning and in some ways abusive.
I am not upset about the relationship. As a matter if fact, it was one of the best things that has happened to me. It opened my eyes. It made me stronger, more confident, and a million times wiser! I learned what I wanted and needed in a friend. It helped me to realize what I have messed up relationships in the past. It was like this friend was plopped into my life to help me fix all the mistakes I had.
Will I ever tell this person all this? Absolutely not!!!!!!!! This person would never understand.
So why did I lie to this person tonight when put on the spot? I still held my ground, but I panicked. I know I have a long way to go. It will be one step at a time. I will have to celebrate the little victories and understand that this will take time. Slowly but surely.
